Breaking the Silence: How to Effectively Discuss Suicide Prevention

In a recent  Wedgwood’s Coffee Break Conversation, the critical topic of suicide prevention was discussed in depth. Brina Tiemeyer, LMSW, CAADC-DP, Director of Clinical Services at Wedgwood Christian Services, shared her insights on how we can approach this delicate issue with sensitivity and effectiveness. The discussion highlighted the importance of framing suicide as a public health issue and provided practical advice for how we can go about these conversations.  

Understanding and Evolving Terminology  

One of the most significant shifts in recent years is the change in how we talk about suicide. Historically, the term “committed suicide” has been used, which can often carry connotations of crime or sin. Today, mental health professionals advocate for saying “died by suicide” instead. This language shift helps to remove stigma and moral judgement associated with the act, focusing instead on the individual’s struggle. 

Additionally, it’s essential to avoid terms like “successful” or “failed” when referring to suicide attempts. These phrases can unintentionally contribute to stigma and make the issue seem like a series of failures rather than a serious health crisis. By focusing on the individual’s experience and the public health aspect, we can create a more supportive environment for discussion. 

Navigating Discomfort 

Discussing suicide can be uncomfortable for many people, largely because it touches on deep-rooted fears and emotional discomfort. Brina pointed out that not everyone is naturally equipped to handle these tough conversations. Comfort with discussing suicide often comes through education, training, and professional experience. For those less familiar with these discussions, starting with general conversations about mental health can be helpful. 

The societal stigma around mental health and suicide also helps the difficulty of these conversations. Many still hold biases or misconceptions that can alter their views on suicide. Recognizing and addressing these biases is crucial to creating open, and supportive dialogue. 

Common Misconceptions 

A common misconception is that suicide is a result of personal weakness or moral failing. This idea is not only inaccurate but harmful. Mental health issues, including suicidal thoughts, should be approached with the same understanding and compassion as any other physical illness. 

Brina used a helpful analogy to clarify this point: Think of mental illness in stages similar to physical health concerns. For instance, stage four cancer represents a dire situation, much like a completed suicide. However, conditions like strep throat, which can be treated effectively, are like managing mental health issues with appropriate intervention. By viewing suicide and mental health struggles through this lens, we can better understand the importance of early intervention and ongoing support. 

If you or a loved one could use additional support managing mental health challenges, Wedgwood’s Outpatient Counseling & Psychiatry Services have immediate openings. Call 616.942.7294 or email counseling@wedgwood.org to get started. 

How to Approach Conversations About Suicide 

When you suspect someone might be struggling with suicidal thoughts, it’s important to address the issue directly. Brina emphasized that it’s better to ask about these thoughts openly rather than avoiding the topic out of fear. For instance, asking someone if they are having thoughts of harming themselves can be a crucial step in offering support. 

Asking about suicide doesn’t plant the idea in someone’s mind, it shows that you’re a safe person to talk to and opens communication. If someone seems distressed, start with general questions about their well-being, like, “I’ve noticed you seem down – do you want to talk about it?” If their distress continues, ask directly but compassionately if they’re having thoughts of self-harm or suicide. Your concern and willingness to discuss this can provide support and help them to feel less alone. 

Practical Tips for Prevention 

Brina outlined three tips for suicide prevention: 

1. Don’t Fear the Inquiry:

   Approach the topic of suicide with openness and ask direct questions if you are concerned about someone’s mental health. Being proactive can make a significant difference. 

1. Recognize the Signs:

   Understand the signs of suicidal ideation and know how to recognize them. Awareness of these signs can help you intervene before a crisis occurs. 

1. Understand Impulsivity:

   Recognize that impulsivity can vary based on a person’s stage of development. For instance, children might act more impulsively due to their brain development in comparison to adults. This can help guide how one approaches someone in crisis. 

How You Can Help 

Talking about suicide is challenging but is a crucial conversation for preventing and addressing mental health crises. By evolving our language, addressing our discomfort, and debunking misconceptions, we can foster a more supportive environment. Remember, understanding and openness are key. With the right approach and continued conversation, we can help reduce stigma and offer support. 

For those looking to learn more or seek support, organizations like Wedgwood Christian Services offer valuable resources – like outpatient counseling and specialized therapy services. If you or someone you know is in crisis, call or text the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at 988. Together, we can make a difference in how we address and prevent suicide.